“To fall in love is to create a religion that has a fallible god.”
Shoutout to Anne Bronte for writing a novel in the 19th century about a young woman who leaves her alcoholic, adulterous and emotionally abusive husband to rot in his ways in order to protect her son from his vile corruption. Seriously, no one wrote stories were women leave their husbands and go on to experience a happy and satisfying life; usually they were just used as cautionary tales.
Goddamn I love that awesome book.
“I’m a simple woman, I like handsome bearded brunette men and breakfast food.”
being in a fandom long term: urrrrrrrrrrgh not this shitty argument again we’ve covered this
Ugh. So true.
What’s the most sensible thing you’ve ever heard someone say?
Hm… the most sensible thing I’ve ever heard some one say…. I’m not sure!
But, the first thing that comes to mind is something my yoga teacher in Los Angeles told me when I was ill with depression — he told me that I needed to accept who I was, where I was, and how I felt. If I wanted to feel differently, the way towards that lay in feeling what I felt, observing it, navigating it and transforming it.
He’d made a particular study of using yoga to combat depression, and when I went to his class, he took care of me — gave me specific things to do, and so often it would just be me, in a corner, folded over in a deep forward bend, sobbing quietly to myself. Horrible, and at the same time, so cathartic and real. Between his help and the anti-depressants, I climbed out of a deep hole, and moved to Europe. That was about 10 years ago, and I’ve had no recurrence of the crushing misery I experienced then.
In the yoga sutra of Patanjali, it says that the aim of yoga is the cessation of the compulsive movement of the mind; to make one’s posture stable and free from suffering. It also says that even a little bit of work towards that end is worth doing, and that future suffering can, and should be avoided, which is another deeply sensible thing my teacher told me. For me, that was a revelation.
Wow. That got personal fast. First a selfie and now this! This must me my TMI day on Tumblr.
“The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love. Not advice, not questions about our choices, not suggestions for the future, just love.”